Competition is an Illusion: My First Year at an Ivy League School

The moral of the story is: Run your own race.

After an incredible last year of high school that surpassed even my own expectations, I was feeling pretty good. With impressive A Level results, the Melbury Cup tennis trophy and an award from the Government of Zimbabwe, I was on top of the world. It felt like nothing could touch me, I was on Cloud Nine, running my own rave, and winning. You can imagine just how much my head inflated after being admitted to one of the most prestigious schools: The University of Pennsylvania, an Ivy League school and as of 2017, #10 in the world. Another notch added to my winning streak.

In many ways, my first year of school matched my expectations: my workload was heavier, my room was smaller and the food wasn’t exactly Michelin star. In writing this post, I don’t want to embody what every other article tells you about going to a competitive school because no matter where you go you will find kids who are smarter than you, more athletic than you and have more savoir-faire than you. Starting university is a huge transition for anyone, and it took a long time for me to realise that that’s true whether you go to college in the same town you grew up in or if like me, you moved 17,000 km across the globe. You will feel awkward, insecure and unprepared. How on earth do you compete with the kid who has been doing research since he was in diapers, or the kid who started their own successful business at 16? What I’m here to tell you is that you don’t. You compete with previous versions of yourself.

I spent a lot of time in my first year trying to outdo my classmates, teammates and at some point, even my own roommates. If I wasn’t at the top of my own mental leader board then I was letting myself down. This toxic cycle of thinking can easily discourage you as you start to feel as though you’re not as brilliant or capable as you thought you were. This led to a loss of self because it felt like I couldn’t do the things that I enjoyed doing if someone was going to be better than me anyways.

It’s easy to fall into the trap when you spend all your time looking at what other people are doing and weighing it against your own accolades. You panic and start to feel that what you have achieved is insignificant or that you haven’t been working hard enough. You put in hours and hours of hard work trying to follow someone else’s path, chasing something that was never meant for you, pursuing something that you will never attain. Nothing hurts your self-esteem more than putting all your effort into a project and not seeing the results especially when it seems as though other people are more successful than you are. This can apply to studying techniques, sports training or getting a startup off the ground.

We need to remind ourselves that this is not a race. Success doesn’t have a timeline. In comparing yourself to others, you start to believe that everyone is looking at you and judging your actions. You feel as though everyone will be disappointed by the fact that you haven’t managed to produce a spectacular project by age 20 or that you haven’t made Forbes’ 30 under 30 by age 25. The truth is that you don’t need to feel the pressure to be sensational in order to please everyone around you. This pill becomes even harder to swallow when you’ve been a high achiever since preschool.

In the end, it became important to recognise that my own individuality is what makes me unique and is the reason why I shouldn’t strive so hard to compete with someone else. It is your unique brand of characteristics that makes you who you are and makes it impossible for you to compare yourself to someone else. So what if they played lacrosse at a national level and you couldn’t get further than your school team? The fact that they have a superior career shouldn’t invalidate the fact that your school team was the best in the region that year. We should learn to stop being critical of ourselves based on what others are doing and instead start congratulating and appreciating ourselves for our accomplishments, no matter how small. I made it all the way down an expert ski slope without falling! I completed a coding assignment without going to office hours! I didn’t miss my 9 am class today!

As I have discovered, college is extremely forgiving. You have the freedom to join a sports team even if you’ve never played the sport before, and you’re allowed to suck at it, at least you put your pride aside and ventured outside your comfort zone. You’re allowed to change your major every other week, and decide to venture into finance even if you don’t really know how the stock market works, it’s admirable that you are chasing your dreams. You’re allowed to start a business that eventually fails, it’s impressive that you were brave enough to try.

The only person you can truly compete with is yourself. I encourage everyone reading this to go out and be the best versions of themselves today. I believe that true happiness comes from self-fulfilment: you feel overjoyed when you set a new record for your fastest 5k, and that is incomparable to the fleeting tinge of satisfaction you feel when you get a higher grade than the person sitting next to you. You shouldn’t have to ‘be better’ than someone in order to feel accomplished. Run your own race and try to beat yourself each time.



Saying Goodbye

Never thought that this moment would arrive but Father Time will always find a moment to catch up with you.


To catch you up to speed, I graduated high school last year in Zimbabwe and I am starting college at the University of Pennsylvania this fall. The Southern African school calendar is marginally different from the rest of the world: whilst we graduated in November 2016, my American age mates only graduated in April of 2017 which meant a 10 month holiday until the start of college in late August. So what exactly does one do with themselves during this period? If you’re me, then you backpack across Europe, take up cycling on the weekends and read more books than you ever thought possible. What can I say, I’m not your typical party-going 18 year old.


You may have noticed that I have neglected to publish any posts over the last 2 weeks and mind you, it’s not out of laziness. I decided to put the blog work away and postpone any distractions so that I could properly bid adieu to the place I was born, and have spent the past 18 years of my life in. It’s not easy when every landmark reminds you of an event; there’s the insurmountable hill that crushed us when we decided to run a 12km race, now we’re driving past my nursery school and look, that’s the restaurant where we hosted my 5th birthday party!


One thing that several of my parents’ friends have said to me is that when I next return home, I will be looking at it through the eyes of an outsider. Moving away is like uprooting yourself from the comfortable pot you had sprouted in only be transported to an expansive field, where you have more space to grow, flower and really turn yourself into the person you want to be.


Although it is difficult to say goodbye, everything has to come to an end. There is a time for everything, I’ve had my time to relax and bum around for the past 10 months, but now it is time for me to put my head down and get back to work. Obviously in between getting to know my fellow classmates, exploring the city of Philadelphia and just having fun you know? As I close this chapter of my life, I remember to be grateful for all the experiences I have had, I have only fond childhood memories to look back on. Several photos I take with me, including the ones in this post that were all taken by me. I am eager to make new memories in the US of A!


Sending warm hugs to wherever you are in the world, let this be a reminder for you to get out there and try something new!

x Andy


Salut tout le monde! It’s been a while since I posted one of these so I’d just like to catch you up to speed on what’s been going on in my life. The goal of these ‘Actuellement’ posts is for me to open up to you guys, in order for you to get to know me better. Actuellement directly translated from French means ‘currently’, another fun fact, les actualités are the news. It’s also an opportunity for me to get to know you, as I invite you to get in contact with me about what’s going on in your life, your trials and tribulations, your advice and your stories. So as we set off into 2017, my first question to you is, what are your resolutions for the new year?

Numero Uno

I have a number of goals and targets for the new year, but they are much less resolutions for this year as they are continuations of things I started last year, affirmations that I’d like to maintain- if you will. The first, if you haven’t noticed already, is for me to improve my Spanish. I can already hear the haters mumbling, ‘There isn’t a single African country where Spanish is the official language, why would you want to do that?’ The answer: because it’s a challenge. I also have plans to travel the world someday, and it could be mightily rewarding to have Spanish in my belt when I trek through the Andes mountains. I am naturally proficient at learning languages, I excelled throughout high school and A Level French, and hungry for more, I decided to add an extra language to join the ranks.

Now that I am stuck in limbo between high school and university, my brain is in desperate need of a stimulus, whether that be writing blog posts, memorising the names of las frutas or diving into a new book (we’ll get on that later). And so in December of 2016, I downloaded Duolingo, bought a new 92 page exercise book and sat down to begin my first lesson. A month later, I’m fighting desperately to avoid confusing the French with the Spanish, racking my brain over the difference between ser and estar, and practising my pronunciation everyday with their simulator. It’s hard work and some days I feel like Sisyphus pushing the rock up a hill, but it is so inherently gratifying when I can recognise whole phrases without having to read subtitles or when I manage to piece together sentences without a translator. My mind is at peace with something to do and it honestly just feels so good to learn something new everyday.

Are you on Duolingo? Join my club, or invite me to yours so we can learn Spanish (and French) together!

Numero Dos

Recently, it seems like I am unable to go out in public without having someone ask me about my university plans or what I intend to do until I eventually leave in August.

What I want to say: I’m really enjoying all the extra time I have to work on my blog. My creativity level is at an all-time-high, I’m paying more attention to detail in my shoots and I feel like my writing and photography skills are improving everyday. I would love to take on the challenge of running my blog full-time and expand it to see how far I can go. I might not get the opportunity to do this again until I’ve finished my first degree so I’d like to take full advantage of this opportunity.

What I actually say: I’m not sure… I’ll just wait till A Level results come out (less than a week now!) and wait for responses from universities come in…

It’s almost impossible for me to express myself in front of most people. I am terrified of being told that it’s out of my depth, that this is a waste of time and that nobody ever made a living out of writing. The hard work I have put into this blog over more than a year will be dismissed in a 2 minute conversation. The inner me cowers at the thought of letting my true feelings be known, and scrambles to come up with an unsatisfactory yet socially acceptable response. Sigh, c’est la vie.

On the bright side, I have been offered admission to Seton Hall University in New Jersey for a 3+2 dual program in Engineering and Science. Score!

Unfortunately, before the good news came in from Seton, I had been emailed the dreaded rejection letter from Stanford University. I had been a straight A student throughout high school, achieving 8 A*s and 3 As at IGCSE and 4 As at AS Level (and I would hate to be overconfident before my A Level results come out), I played tennis for the Zimbabwe U19 team, I attended the THIMUN conference in The Hague on 2 occasions, I was a prefect, I was head of quiz, treasurer of the Toastmasters Society, performed at the Eisteddfod Speech & Drama etc. I was the model student, it just felt like I deserved to go there. It was something that I thought would be handed to me on a silver platter. I breezed through the essays, ticked all the boxes, put my feet up and waited for the acceptance packet to come through. But guess what? It never did.

It was a hard pill to swallow, and for days I brooded in my room wondering one thing: what was wrong with me? Did I not fit the typical profile? Were my essays not personal enough, too revealing, or just generally uninteresting? It took 19847 articles and even more videos for me to eventually realise that I was not the problem. In particular, this video from YesReneau on being rejected from Stanford but accepted to Harvard is particularly inspiring. Side note: I love her so much she’s so funny you should totally subscribe. When one door closes, another one opens and I know in my heart that this little bump in the road won’t deter me on my journey to greatness. As I wait for decisions from the other universities I had applied to, I remain with hope in my heart that the future will be bright. I know that this is the first of many minor setbacks I will experience on this journey called life, but I am determined to not let them deter me.

“An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means that it’s going to launch you into something great. So just focus and keep aiming.”

Do you have any experiences you’d like to share about going through the college application process? Please share in the comments below or shoot me an email.

Numero Tres

With a new year comes new movies, new series and new memes. Basically everything tv-related I’m excited for is summarised in this video. My top 3 picks from there:

  1. GAME OF THRONES. Shoutout to everyone who read the books and was way ahead of the tv fans until Season 6! For once, we’re just as clueless as everyone else and have absolutely no idea what George RR Martin is going to pull out of his sleeve this time. Whether that fills you with terror and dread or if it thrills you to the very core, one thing is for certain: this season is going to be phenomenal
  2. The Wonder woman movie. I think we can all agree that Gal Gadot was the best part of the Batman vs Superman: Dawn of Justice movie. I honestly think that she is incredibly fabulous and I’ve always admired Wonder woman’s inherent strength and skill as a warrior. I’m excited for DC to redeem itself after 2016’s trainwreck of movies they produced.                                                    wonderwoman.jpg
  3. Rick and Morty. I only started watching this show 3 weeks ago and was heartbroken when I raced through seasons 1 and 2 in less than 4 days. This show is brilliant and a gem of our time, I cannot wait to see what these creative geniuses bring us in Season 3.

Numero Cuatro

I’ll make this one short before someone stabs me through their computer screen. I have a Facebook page! If you scroll to the bottom of this page, you’ll find a button that will take you straight to it. I encourage you to go ahead and give it a like, leave a nice comment, share it with your friends! Whilst you’re there, be sure to drop your email address in the box below it to receive an email every single time I post. And if you’re still not done with me, you’ll also find a prompt that will take you straight to my Instagram page. Go ahead and give me a follow, ey?

Thanks again for reading and going through all the emotions with me. Don’t forget that if you need to contact me: I’m only one email away. Until next time mis amigos!